Thursday, April 17, 2014

Motherhood: World's Toughest Job

Do you sometimes feel like you are expected to wear a million different hats as a mother? Doctor, cook, plumber, taxi driver, waitress, maid, teacher,cheerleader, entertainment, etc.

A few days ago the mister and I were chatting about some things I was trying to sort out with our insurance...then I found myself sobbing. At that moment, I felt like I was supposed to know how to manage a million different things in my spare time... things that I didn't have any previous knowledge in. I think it is difficult for a person who is not home all day to understand how a busy a day can really be without all the extra tasks and errands. Add those things in the daytime, and it is feels impossible.

 The next day he texted me this.
 I am sure you have seen it gets me every time. I just love it..

Moms are amazing huh? 

Check out the entire article here.


Monday, April 14, 2014

Giveaway winner!!!

What is your story? 


YAY!! I want to announce the official winner: Rhiannon Beausoliel! Check your inbox!

Also, I want you to know that I love reading comments and love it when you share something with me! So, to show my appreciation-I want to also give additional books away to the ladies who shared with me. Thank goodness for those cheerleaders who cheer us on when things get tough- I appreciate your comments!

So, if you left a comment check your email shortly for further information on how to get your book!! If you didn't win this time around...there will be another chance in a few short weeks to get a signed hard copy of this book to celebrate Mother's Day!!! Stay tuned!

Thanks to all of you who continue to read this blog despite the eb and flow of writing that happens around here. I have some great things in the works...

 Love you all!
besitos, xo

Friday, April 11, 2014

Naptime Confession:Mommy is a PERSON.

"Mommy is a person."

This phrase was an Ah Ha moment I had while reading "Motherhood Realized,"  when April Perry was asked by her husband what she needed that week. I first love that question, but I particularly loved what happened next. She responded with, " Well, to survive, I need...." And then he looked at her and said, "April, I don't want you to only survive, I want you to THRIVE." 

Wow...that hit me...why do we as mothers forget that we also have things in our life that make us thrive... things that make us feel alive?

 These things have become a far distant memory as I find myself immersing completely in the trenches with my children day after day. I think that is why I am so spotty in writing on this blog. I love doing it- it makes me feel alive...but sometimes, I don't expect or make room for anything else in my life. Even the simplest things such as painted nails, bubble baths, hobbies, yoga, uninterrupted phone calls, uninterrupted bathroom breaks, solo shopping trips, reading, writing in this blog, and moments of sitting in pure silence all get placed on the back burner...until one day we crack and all our frustrations comes pouring out.

We all have been there.

Seriously... why do we do that to ourselves? We ARE people too you know! 

This phrase, "Mommy is a person," was explained by April to her children at the dinner table one evening. She asked to make sure that before they began that they had all they needed to make it through dinner so she could enjoy eating without having to get up and down... because..."Mommy is a person."

Haha- I laughed when I read that because..

That is so true. 

I am always up and down throughout dinner getting napkins, ice, ketchup- whatever. 

But no way not anymore...

My job description as a mother doesn't need to include: having absolutely zero free time,  dropping whatever I am in the middle of to retrieve something for a child, taking 2 minute showers or frankly no showers at all, skipping going to the gym because it is inconvenient, having children wait outside the door while I go to the bathroom, be the constant entertainment and the constant planner for everyone's schedule but my own, and ignoring those parts of myself that make me thrive as a mother and as a person.  

So today ask yourself...WHAT DO YOU NEED TO THRIVE? 

This story among many others is in the book Motherhood Realized! It is a must read! Don't forget that I am giving away one of these books right now... and it ends tonight- so hurry!

Go to this post to enter!

besitos, xo

Tuesday, April 8, 2014

GIVEAWAY: Motherhood Realized Book

Isn't this so true? 
This book was exactly that for me.
A cheering section.
It is a collaboration of stories told through the perspective of different mothers. I have laughed out loud, cried, and pondered over the messages that I read in this book. It continues to gain momentum as it is #1 in motherhood and parenting on Amazon right now! 
As I have mentioned, I am on the launching team for The Power of Moms and love what they stand for and this book is no exception!

Who wants to read this righ now!??
 I love it so much that I am going to giveaway a digital download of this book to one of my readers!!

Enter here.

Who is your cheering section in your life?

besitos, xo

Monday, April 7, 2014

It's Monday. Clean the mind.

Monday is here and my mind is starting to feel a bit cluttered once again...those "to dos" and task list are haunting me. I can't ignore them forever so during my baby's nap time I decide to tackle a few small tasks to get them out of the way.

 I called the insurance company to ask a question and get a man on the phone who either hated his job or was drunk. Most likely both. At one point he mumbled something and I said, "I am so sorry but I am not sure what you just said." And then he loudly and bluntly repeats his sentence into the phone with a two second pause between each word, "I... SAID... BLAH... BLAH... BLAH!"  It took all my energy to not want to respond back with, "WELL...THANK...YOU...NOW...CAN...I...SPEAK...TO...YOUR...MANAGER!"
But honestly, not worth my energy. Task is completed and I can now enjoy the rest of my day outside in the grass with my little one. 

 If you missed it- I was over at How Does She last week talking about Cleaning out the Mind. I am needing to follow my own advice this morning!!

 Go and check it out!!
Happy Monday.
besitos, xo

Wednesday, March 26, 2014

Motherhood: Through Small and Simple Things

Isn't this so true?
Sometimes, all the PB&J making, laundry folding, bug catching, children book reading, and nightly bed tucks seem so small in comparison to what the rest of the world is doing. 

Am I really making a difference in the world?

But this quote from the book Mother Realized reminds me that those small things really do have an effect on our future generations and are really making a difference in the world!

I am honored to be joining other deliberate mothers through The Power of Moms  and have had a chance to pre-read this book before it came out! I love it and am now am telling the world about it! We are on track to get it to a New York Best Sellers!

 So, hurry and help us spread the word and order now (here)!!  I am grabbing several for Mother's Day gifts!

 Here is a little video to tell you more about what this little gem is about:

besitos, xo

Saturday, March 22, 2014

Wednesday, March 19, 2014

Naptime confession: I fight a bully.

A few years ago, I was walking down the street in New York City and came upon of my favorite all time images.

"We can do it." 
I constantly remind myself of this. 

Like the time I ran a marathon with little to no training. I had never ran more than 5 miles prior to running that day. I told myself...I can do it.

Like the time I pulled all-nighters after all-nighters studying for my licenser exam... and passed!  I can do it.

 Like the time I gave birth. Twice. Enough said. I can do it.

Like the time I pulled myself out of bed to feed my newborn with 104 degree temperature and the flu. I can do it. 

Like the time I carried both kids and a bag of groceries through the front door while I was consoling a friend on the phone. I can do it.

Like the time I managed to complete all the laundry in one day- folded and put away. I can do it.

Like the time I spoke at a seminar in front of hundreds of people. I can do it.

Like the times I got out of bed even when I wanted to pull the covers over my head and go back to sleep. I can do it.

I am not going to say I don't have moments where that bully voice in my head gets the best of me and I wonder what in the world am I thinking... why even bother... might as well give up.  

Oh yah bully... 

I push up my sleeves, put my game face on, and flex my muscles. 

Oh. Yes. I. Can. Do. It.
Watch me.

I refuse to listen to that inner bully.

And so should you.

Besitos, xo

Monday, March 17, 2014

Music and Movement: Dance like a leprechaun!

In case you missed this post on How Does She...

I am sharing this again... because it is....ST. PATRICKS DAY.

They sit. They sit in the car. They sit at school.  They sit in front of the computer. They sit in front of the TV. They sit and play video games. They sit and play on their smart phones or tablets. They sit. Has it occurred to anyone that our kids are not moving as much as we did as when we were kids? is anyone else concerned? 
Studies show that kids who have more opportunity to move will be more likely to become confident movers and have more physical ability and coordination. Therefore, these kids will be more likely to enjoy moving later on in their life and have a healthier life because of it.
It is up for us as parents to get our kids moving! One thing we do a lot in our house is DANCING!! In celebration again of St. Patricks Day...I bring back this video with Bee's music for you to play and dance along with your kids!! You are their best example!! Plus it is fun!
Happy Monday! Enjoy.

besitos, xo

Friday, March 14, 2014

Motherhood: Finding me again.

So, like I mentioned yesterday...I was determined to go do something fun with my kids, partly to celebrate the newly clean home and partly to get the kids out before it was tainted with juice spills, pee drips on the toilet (do boys ever learn how to aim?) and tiny little fingerprints on the glass doors. Let us just say our sparkling home lasted about 1.2 hours before a toy was left behind a dish crept back in the sink or a spill needed to be cleaned up.

But in the words of Juan Pablo from this season of the Bachelor, "It's okay." Ha ha I find myself saying that phrase a lot in a thick spanish accent, "eets ohwkayee"

I was okay with it being okay.

In fact, it felt great! I woke up yesterday morning with a pep in my step and an excitement for life. I was feeling ALIVE! Without the heavy weight of chores, checklists, and to dos of the home- I felt FREE! 

For the first time in months, I was able to sit on the floor and be 100% engaged and present with my kids. I felt like me again. I used to be able to play hours upon hours with kids chasing them, building sandcastles, and playing pretend...that was before I had my own kids and home to run. It took me all my mental strength to remain focused and present in a pretend game. But today I was back... I was smiling. I was laughing. I was having... fun! We played pretend games of tigers and dug for dinosaur bones. We giggled as we slid down the neck of a giraffe slide at the zoo and then made funny faces at each other with our cotton candy mustaches. We got sticky, dirty, and sweaty...and it was all more than okay. It was freaking FABULOUS.

Later that night, the mister walked through the door and we ran up to him with a great big hug and sat to eat a warm dinner while we chatted about our day. Afterwards, we all ventured out for ice cream and the night came to an end as I held my kids in my lap and read them a story and kissed them good night. Then instead of going downstairs to finish up the kitchen clean up- I went to bed early with my husband. Eh hem...we will leave it at that. ;)

I don't write this to brag or make others feel guilt... I write this because I realized something... that the barrier that was causing me to feel such a funk was ME.

As soon as I asked and let someone else help me... I felt free. And it was not so much what we did this day that made a difference...but how I did it. I did it with my heart open and my mind present. And that my friends made a world of difference.

Seeing such a change in one day has caused me to reflect about how I need to ask and call on help more. I can't do this alone...nor should I expect myself to do so.

I hope you have a wonderful weekend. Thanks for letting me share my thoughts. I am in the process of revamping and working on upcoming things for this site. Stay tuned!

besitos, xo

Thursday, March 13, 2014

Naptime Confession: Letting go...I hired someone to clean my house.


I am addicted.

Okay so that is not the confession I am here to share. But I do love this stuff. Right now I am sitting at my computer after a beautiful day with a jar of cookie butter and a spoon. I really need to get my own jar and label it because I think I am going to go for only one dip...but shortly after putting it back in the pantry...I sneak it out and... double dip. Shhhhh....that is an additional confession... But I must celebrate a fabulous day of accomplishments. The kids are sound asleep. The house is quiet. And the house is CLEAN. I don't have any additional house cleaning hanging over my head. It is COMPLETE.
That is right...I have plenty of time to just be here right now eating my cookie butter with you.

My secret?
After months (okay maybe years) of talking about it...

I hired clean my house.

Why has it taken me this long to finally call and get help? I mean let's be honest, I hate to clean. Okay I don't really HATE it...but I would rather be doing pretty much ANYTHING else- minor surgery included. I mean why is that I have this idea in my mind that in order to be a "good mom" I need to be Martha and have a spotless house, with three warm meals, and a million pinterest-worthy activities for the kids to engage in on a daily basis. AHHHHHH. How?

The funny part is that when my new cleaning friends were here, I kept hearing myself apologizing for the filth and even found myself cleaning along side with them. Ugh... finally after several hours of apologies and toilet scrubbing- I told myself to stop. Just stop. Let go. Remember be okay with okay. So, I let go and took my little ones to the park...and didn't think about anything else but being there in the moment with them. PERRRFECTION!

Is it weird that I was teary eyed when I hugged and thanked them sincerely from the bottom of my heart...I was overwhelmed with complete gratitude. These two women came into my filthy home and gave me such a wonderful gift. Time. Time with my kids. Time to be a mother and a wife who can completely be in the moment. And that my friends is worth every penny. I just may have to cut the budget in different areas...but I will figure that out. This for me is priceless.

I just realized a weed that I kept telling myself...that I am only a "good mom" if I keep a perfectly clean house. I am here to tell you that I don't believe that any more. I am a great mom... because I. try. my. best...end of story.
And so are you.

What stories do you keep telling yourself about not measuring up?

Now, I am planning my day with my kids... no cleaning needs to be done...what should we do? Art? Zoo? Museum? Park? I can not wait to spend the day 100% in the moment with these munchkins. 

besitos, xo

Wednesday, March 12, 2014

Hands Free Mama

 Last night I discovered this little gem of a blog: Hands Free Mama.  

She writes about learning to avoid over scheduling, massive to-do lists, perfectionism, and other distractions of life but to rather focus on making memories and enjoy being the present moment. 

I dig that.

I highly recommend taking a read and joining her "Hands Free Revolution."

Thats all for today- I think I will take my minute away while little B is asleep and read more posts on her blog.

Besitos, xo

Tuesday, March 11, 2014

Family: Creating a Family Vision Board

To know where you are heading you must know where you are going. 

I love creating vision boards to be able to visualize what I want for myself and my life. A few months ago, I set out to create a 2014 vision board for myself. You can find the process and final results  here. 

But I know this same principle applies to a family. Having a family vision not only can help guide and get family members on the same page, but it is a great reminder during moments of possible conflict. 

If there is ever a moment where a family member is behaving in a manner opposite to the family vision, I point to it and ask questions such as:

"What could we do right now to become this family in our family vision?" 
"How can I help you so we can get back on track to our family vision?"
"What do you think needs to happen so we can be inline with our family vision?"
"What is something we can do right now to follow our family vision?"

You want to create one?
Close your eyes...well not now but after you read this.

Ask yourself this: "If you could create a family vibe and culture what would that look like?" Use all your senses and really visualize what that means. What are you guys doing? What does your home feel like? What does it taste like? What does it sound like? What does it smell like?

 We first wrote out thoughts and words that could describe our family. Common words that came up were, fun, dancing, kind, loving, sharing, christ-centered, supporting, helping, traveling, traditions, etc. 

Then, we gathered magazines and a poster board and everyone cut out images that spoke to them and we glued it on the board. Don't worry how it will look... just let everyone in the family including the real young ones help and be a part of it.

When it is finished your family can talk about ways to be able to be the things you discussed as a family. Hang it on the wall as a reminder.

There you go... Now go and create the family you want to become!

Besitos, xo

Monday, March 10, 2014

Mindful Living: Patience.

Another day of just thoughts. Did you know today is national nap day? That should justify my reasoning for skipping the gym and crawling back into bed on this rainy Monday morning right?

But somehow I still find myself with the million "to dos" that come with a Monday... but first- I just thought I would come and write out some thoughts. My friend and fellow How Does She writer Caley created this printable and posted it on her blog here.

Isn't that so true? 
Sometimes I get impatient in what I am wanting to happen that I find myself not enjoying the moment or stage I am in. I think if only I can get from A to B then I will have all the answers and happiness and joy in the world.

Not really so.

Over the weekend, I read this blog post from my sis B.  She to me is an amazing example of patiently waiting. Her path to motherhood has been a long and bumpy road full of doctor visits, hormone injections, more doctor visits, and hurdles... I mean lots of hurdles. She has had to pray for miracles, exercise her faith and.... wait. patiently... and she continues to wait.

Oh what an example she is to me. I read this post and wept. At times I feel guilty that I have two beautiful healthy children when so many are praying for at least one. I know that this guilt is placed there by me and no one else...but it just doesn't seem fair. 

Something she has taught me is that living in the moment and enjoying the now is vital to happiness. No one can MAKE you happy but yourself. Not kids, not a spouse, not a job...nothing... but YOU. One can't always be longing for what they don't have or what may be without neglecting the current moment and she is always reminding me of that.

 As with the title of my blog: You can either choose to see a field full of dandelion weeds or instead embrace it and choose to see them  as wishes and endless possibilities. Way easier said than done... but I am on a mission to strive for those wishes.

I am trying to be constant in my writing...I am going to try my best to get a few thoughts down daily. I hope to write on topics such as:

Celebrating Womenhood
Marriage and Relationships
Art Journaling
Music and Movement
Activities for Children
Personal Confessions

I want to expand and in the future provide ebooks and ecourses...But I need your help in letting me know what you like to read or what you want to see  more of. You can help by either leaving a comment or marking one of the boxes below any of the posts to tell me if it struck any cords with you! I want this to be a place where you can shed the guilt we women like to carry around and feel inspired and empowered.

That's all... A nap doesn't sound too bad right now! ;)

besitos, xo

Friday, March 7, 2014

Stuck in my head.

I sit at the computer trying to type. Seems so much lately just stays STUCK in my mind. There is so much I want to share with the world but I sit at the computer and nothing wants to come out. So many thoughts, ideas, emotions...but yet I feel stuck. stuck. STUCK!! 

Today, I am not going to think so much. I do way too much of that. I am going to just speak from the heart.... whatever the heart wants to share. No plans... I am sick of planning...I have always been a planner.

I was 13 when I decided I wanted to work as some sort of psycho-therapist helping others on their path. 13! I knew my purpose and was so confident in who I was at 13- or at least I thought I was. I wanted to help couples, women, and marriages. I wanted to help families bond and grow together. I wanted to help women reach their full potential. I wanted to inspired others to be happy. I was a dreamer and a planner. By the age 30... I was going to be SUCCESSFUL!

This is photo was taken on my 30th birthday.

But what is success anyhow?

My plan went something like this in my head:

Age 21: Graduate with my undergrad. 
Age 23: Receive my PHD in child psychology. 
Age 24: Conduct several published studies and journal articles.
Age 26: Write my first book.  
Age 28: Create a well renowned Therapeutic Preschool for kids and their parents
Age 29: Date a guy seriously
Age 30: Get hitched....down the road have babies.

My heart had other plans:

Age 21: Married my best friend and graduated undergrad. 
Age 23: Move to Scottsdale and nannied while my husband went to graduate school. 
Age 24: Moved to Boise and started my graduate school program in Marriage and Family Counseling. 
Age 26: Graduated with my Masters and was pregnant with my first child. 
Age 28: Opened a small private practice: Live Inspired Counseling
Age 29: Pregnant again but miscarried after 12 weeks of pregnancy. 
Age 30: Had my second child and turned 31 five days later 


Honestly, I look at both of these lists and am grateful for my path. Just because I chose another focus doesn't make my worth as a person any less. I got an email from my little sister who is working towards her bachelors in Biology. She was expressing to me about her true feelings about her career path options. She was worried that her true passion wasn't "prestigious" enough. 

Today I tell you sister and to women all around- Follow what is in your heart and you will never have any regrets. Learn to TRUST your inner voice. As women we have lots of voices- But focus on the voice that tells you that your worth is NOT dependent on how YOU measure success. You are ALWAYS of worth.

At age 30 my path was different than once planned. Am I still successful? Well that depends on how I measure success. Am I happy? 
Absolutely. Maybe even MORE so.
Then yes. That is how I choose to measure my success. 

The sun is shining. Birds are chirping- I have to go out and play... Much much more to come...this is just the beginning....I think I just may have unstuck myself...

besitos, xo